The other night, I was having dinner with a friend and we
started to talk about moving forward in our lives after divorce. No matter what
the circumstances surrounding a break up, the truth is divorce especially when
you have children is complicated, relentless, and difficult to navigate in the
years following the end of the partnership. I recently compared it to a tight
rope, an emotional one, which you teeter back and forth, up and down, trying to
maintain your balance. That balance is tested by co-parenting; new
relationships; the ever changing needs of multiple children; unforeseen
decisions that have to be made instantaneously; financial worry; and the list
continues.
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| Me and my girl (August 2015) |
So I gave my friend the one true resolve that has always
help me navigate through life no matter the blow…forgiveness. It is not always
easy to come by, but it is essential to the way I live my life. I believe that
people are good. Innately good. And somewhere down the road, they lose their
way, or they get an unexpected detour that changes who they are. I can’t
control or change those things, the only power I have to my own personal
happiness, is to forgive and move forward in my life focused on the good that
is in it. When I forgive someone, I let go of the pain they have caused me and
the power that that person once had over me is gone. It is liberating and
pushes me forward each day with strength.
In this new chapter of my life, I want to find the best
version of myself and share it with the people I love. Happy thoughts….
