Sunday, March 15, 2015

Henry’s First Bar Mitzvah Lesson (March 8, 2015)




I had one of those unexpected grateful mommy moments this weekend. My 12-year-old son Henry had his first Bar Mitzvah lesson on Sunday morning in the awe-inspiring, yet familiar Beth Tfiloh sanctuary. As we approached the entrance to the doors of the hallowed walls, Henry’s tutor, Stan, introduced himself to both Henry and I with a welcoming smile. I asked Henry if he wanted me present, and he nonchalantly said, "You can stay, Mom."

We headed into the synagogue/school we have called home for the last 10 years. Uncharacteristically, empty and quiet, we sat as Stan carefully explained the importance of Henry’s Bar Mitzvah Parsha Ki Tisa. Henry sat attentive and respectful.  I began to feel the emotional weight of the journey that lies ahead as I sat a quiet observer.

After a few minutes, unbeknownst to Henry, the time had come for Stan to informally test Henry on his ability to read his Parsha. And without hesitation or even a flicker of anxiety, Henry read the Hebrew words as if it was his first language. I tried to choke back the tears, but I was overcome by my pride in a handsome, smart, kind-hearted son, that had listened for over a decade to the wisdom of his teachers at Beth Tfiloh and learned how to connect with the traditions that brought him to where he is today. Sitting in the comfort of his Beth Tfiloh home, singing the prayer that was picked for him long ago, I was moved by my gentle Henry’s composure and confidence.

As we walked away from his first lesson, Henry turned to me and said, “Mom, I am so glad I got this Parsha. I actually know what I am saying. Knowing what I am saying, makes it so much more meaningful.” And in that moment, I knew the years of hard work to nurture his love of Judaism with my partners at Beth Tfiloh had paid off. My son had found meaning behind the words, and it resonated with him. He was happy and at peace. He identified with being Jewish in that profound moment. A mother’s wish truly fulfilled…and it was only his first lesson.

May Henry find the road ahead filled with meaning and love for Judaism while honoring the memory of those who have come before him.